Yeah, confusing sentence. :( You're using LJ terminology still, and "friended to" is really unclear, so I can't tell you if what you want is possible or not. (We don't have 'friends' or a 'friends list': there's subscribing to someone, aka "I want to read your posts on my reading list", and granting access to someone, aka "I want you to be able to read my locked posts". We do refer to "the people who are on one or both of those lists" as "your circle" for ease of shorthand, but they're very different concepts.)

It is possible to hide, on your own profile, the list of people who have added you to their access lists, or have subscribed to your journal, because that's not something you have control over. You can do that by going to the Edit Profile page, and unchecking the box labeled "Circled By": if that box is checked, your profile will show the lists of people who have subscribed to you or given you access in addition to the list of people you've subscribed to or granted access, while if the box is unchecked, your profile will only show the lists of people you've subscribed to or granted access.

If someone else has subscribed to you or granted you access, your name will always appear on their profile under the lists of who they've subscribed or granted access to. There's no way to remove yourself from that.